President Buhari set to marry another. [What is and what is not]

A video purportedly showing Nigeria’s First Lady Aisha Buhari locked up in a room in Aso Villa after she returned from London on Thursday has been shared and viewed tens of thousand times on the social media.

Since Wednesday, social media has been awash with claims that the Nigerian President Muhammadu Buhari will be getting married to Sadiya Umar Farouq, minister of humanitarian affairs, disaster management and social development, because Mrs Buhari has been away for months.

Mrs Buhari left the country early August to Saudi Arabia to perform hajj (Muslim pilgrimage) and has not returned since then.

Several hashtags have been trending on Twitter on the premise of the wedding and the “sudden” return of Mrs Buhari to the country to stop the wedding. #TheWedding, #BUSA19, #AISHA, #Presidentialwedding and several others.

Some other local news platforms have also circulated the wedding claim. They all claimed that a close source at the Presidential Villa disclosed to them that the marriage will take place on Friday, October 11, 2019.

Former Special Assistant on Social Media to the former President Goodluck Jonathan, Reno Omokri tweeted on Thursday night, saying that the rumour of the second wife is true, although the date of the marriage is not known yet.

“Apparently, the second wife story is true. What cant be confirmed is the date of the wedding fatiha. This man shouldn’t tempt his Creator. He just recovered from serious ill health and now he wants to add another yarinya! Second Term, Second Wife! Baba o! #SecondTermSecondWife”

Is Buhari getting married?

While there are no official statements to authenticate the claims, the supposed new missus, Farouq, is presently in New York promoting a UN campaign against poverty.

More concretely, a presidential spokesman Femi Adesina in a chat with tribune has debunked any marriage claims.

“How will anyone expect that the President will be getting married and it will be a secret affair?” Adesina said.

“Nigerians like to gist and play banters, as it is another way of relaxation for many, and they have seen the president as a personality that suits their side talks. It is bad, but that is what happens.”

Is Aisha back to the country?

The claims that Nigeria’s First Lady is back to the country is false. The video purportedly showing her back to the villa is an old video.

Mrs Buhari’s aide also confirmed to BBC Pidgin that the video is an old video. She said it happened about two years ago. The source, however, disclosed that Mrs Buhari and the president had a little misunderstanding and that might be the reason she is still in London.

Bizarre Fight Scene: Employer & Employee

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Conflict in the workplace is inevitable: Opposite personalities clash, stress is prevalent, perceptions of situations vary, and viewpoints differ all of which contribute to tension and disagreement. Knowing how to manage these situations effectively is key to keeping productivity and morale high.

Avoiding conflict or mismanaging it comes at a high cost to organizations. According to one report, employees in the United States spend 2.8 hours per week on workplace conflict, resulting in $359 billion in lost time.

“Unfortunately, employees and managers tend to avoid conflict because they either don’t want to deal with it or they aren’t properly trained to do so,” says Adrienne Isakovic, a lecturer for Northeastern University’s Master of Science in Corporate and Organizational Communication program. “Their instinct is to default to the human resources department even though they shouldn’t. It’s an avoidance mechanism.”

Avoiding conflict ultimately results in chaos. Human beings are emotional creatures with trigger points and biases that have developed through various experiences. Allowing these filtering mechanisms to dominate when conflicts arise is a recipe for disaster.

“That’s when you get chaos,” Isakovic says. “Office politics come into play, you have accusations of unequal treatment, and biases can run rampant. You need to have processes and mechanisms in place that can be used to take the emotions out of equations so you can seek out the fundamental issue and what you can do to address it.”

While it’s HR’s responsibility to share and train managers on effective conflict-resolution strategies, it’s not their responsibility to resolve all workplace issues, Isakovic adds. Instead, HR should encourage managers to work through conflicts with their employees on their own, and only involve HR when absolutely necessary.

“HR shouldn’t be involved in every conflict because then they become the police station at the company—and that’s not their role,” she says.

Here are five strategies to help managers effectively resolve conflicts with employees.

1) Detach from Your Biases

One essential quality that all managers need to develop is a strong sense of self-awareness. Managers need to acknowledge their own biases, trigger points, and preconceptions, otherwise it’s difficult to rise above them to identify what the actual problem is.

“If managers can’t adequately describe themselves and how they see the world, they won’t be able to enact strategies to see the other perspectives,” Isakovic says. “Managers can’t truly assess a situation without detaching from their biases. Having that self-awareness is critical.”

This also means being aware of how you react, both physically and emotionally, to situations involving conflict. According to the National Institutes of Health, the most common responses to approaching conflict include:

• Avoidance: When someone recognizes conflict in a situation and decides to disengage from the problem
• Accommodation: Also referred to as yielding, it occurs when a conflict is resolved, but an individual’s needs aren’t met. If an individual is consistently accommodating, resentment may affect the relationship.
• Compromise: When two parties of equal power agree to a resolution
• Collaboration: Working with others to find a solution in which everyone has their needs met

Avoiding a conflict, for example, might be effective when the issue is minor, but it isn’t prudent when a major conflict arises. Each response has a place, but you need to understand your reactions in the context of which method is most effective.

2) Actively Listen 

When a conflict arises, managers need to block out urges to formulate their responses and simply listen instead.

“It’s something we’re all guilty of in emotionally charged situations: As the other person is talking, we’re already preparing what we’re going to say in response,” Isakovic says. “You need to actively listen, and even if it takes you 30 seconds after they have finished talking to respond, that’s fine.”

You should be actively listening from a place of empathy, too, she adds. While you don’t necessarily need to agree with the employee, you need to put yourself in their shoes and acknowledge that they have a different perspective than you.

To improve your active listening, avoid distractions in your office like checking your email on your computer, peeking at your smartphone, or fiddling with papers on your desk. Be aware of your body language; avoid folding your arms or glancing at the clock. Ask questions to make sure you’re understanding what they’re saying, and repeat their message back to them to ensure you’re both on the same page.

3) Practice Empathy

Empathy refers to a person’s ability to understand feelings through verbal and nonverbal messages, provide emotional support to people when needed, and understand the links between others’ emotions and behaviors.

According to the Society for Human Resource Management, showing empathy toward your employees is key to establishing a trusting relationship. It’s also a leadership skill that most managers struggle with: Only 40 percent demonstrate empathy effectively, SHRM says.

During an employee-manager conflict, it’s important for managers to acknowledge the employee’s feelings and understand where they’re coming from, Isakovic says.

Prayer for Nigeria

The Federal Republic of Nigeria is a country in West Africa on the Gulf of Guinea. It hasa diverse topography, with arid savanna, rainforest, mountains, mangrove swamps, and the wide delta of the Niger River.


Nigeria became independent from Britain in 1960 and is now divided into 30 states to accelerate development and to minimize the impact of ethnic loyalties on national politics.Ethnicityis a sensitive issue, as Nigeria has 426 ethnic groups.

The economy is oil driven a wealthy nation but mismanagement abounds leading to abject poverty. God is about to change all this! In Jesus Mighty Name, Amen.

Let us pray that:-

God will remove every Ahab that is in authority. Every ungodly rulers and those that do not stand up for righteousness and integrity.


That the doors will open into every home that does not know the Lord for the penetration of the Gospel.


God will bless and protect all the believers from every attack of the enemy in Jesus Mighty Name, Amen. Let us pray Isaiah 54:17 that “No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD.”


For a complete end to the cycle of religious violence. Proverbs 23:18 “For surely there is an end and our expectation shall not be cut off”


Pray for peace.  Ask the Almighty God to comfort, heal and provide for those who have lost loved ones and /or properties and businesses during the religious and tribal violence.


Pray against all hidden agendas, and that any attempts to deliberately orchestrate violence between the religious communities of Nigeria would come to nothing. Pray that every evil counsel that is in existence be destroyed. (Job 5:12-14).


Pray for wisdom in the utilization of the nations resources especially the oil. Let us pray that every corruption, injustice and wickedness in high places be brought down and totally destroyed in Jesus Mighty Name, Amen. God declares in Proverbs 11:1  “A false balance is abomination to the LORD: but a just weight is his delight.”


Pray for mercy for the weak, the poor and the orphans who cry for help because our Lord is the Help of the helpless. Psalms 68:5  “A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his holy habitation.”



Begin to declare


A destruction of all false alters and speak an establishment of the Alter of the Almighty God, in Jesus Mighty Name, Amen.


A blessing over the Land. From the east to the west, from the north to the south proclaim a blessing.


A destruction to every prince of the air ruling over that region in Jesus Mighty Name, Amen.


That the True Light will shine to all that are still in darkness in that region in Jesus Mighty Name, Amen.


Healing over the economy, restoration of agriculture, and godly leadership


Remember to cover yourself, your family, your loved ones, your ministry, and your work, with the blood of Jesus. Ask God to be your rear-guard as you battle in intercession. Also pray for all other Believers that are praying for the different nations and ask God to strengthen them and grant them success.


Jeremiah 32:27  Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh: is there any thing too hard for me?